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Medicalization of our Sexuality.
 
     
The take-a-pill-and-fix-it medicalization and attitude of our society has long impacted people's intimacy. We just didn't get told about it. Be sure to ask if any medication you are being given has been known to create side effects such as: an erectile disorder, decreased arousal, decreased desire, or has caused people to become anorgasmic (inability to orgasm). And if so, is there another medication available that does not. If you have any questions, I can check the13 page handout that accompanied the AASECT (American Association of Sex Educators Counselors and Therapists) presentation "Medications That May Contribute to Sexual Disorders" I received from William Finger Ph.D., who co-authored it along with Mark. A Slage Pharm.D
       I am also hearing of more men who are taking Viagra recreationally. My gut feel is don't mess with Mother Nature, you are likely to piss her off.
 
     
  
ANME Adult Novelty Manufacturers Expo

 
    At the recent ANME show we discovered a couple of new really cute items  
   
Tongue Joy.
 
    Ever wanted to have your tongue be a vibrator? Or perhaps your finger or penis? With this versatile little toy
and its three sizes of very stretchy rings to hold the tiny T shaped vibrator, you can incorporate gentle very targeted vibration during manual play, oral stimulation or during intercourse with it held at the base of the man's shaft. Field researchers are doing their thing as we speak. Next month their feedback and innovative ideas
 
   
The Tool Chest.
 
    Imagine a gladiator's leather chest harness but this time the battle's a win-win.
For the woman who loves the sensation of being "filled up" while her reclining man enjoys the view of his partner, front or back. In the front facing position, a pillow under his head and he has the option of performing oral sex.
You can see both items on the Products Page. Just follow the link to "Products". Then choose "Vibrators" to view
the TongueJoy and "Clear Silicone-like Toys" to view The Tool Chest.

 
     
 

Question of the month
 
      August 8, 2001  
 
    
 
 
  Question:
  Some of my orgasms feel very different from others. I usually get a great deal of enjoyment when he goes down on me and that is my quickest way to come, but if I do come when we are doing things doggy style, my orgasm feels even more so. Is this normal and is there a reason for this?
-39 year old married woman, two children, Chicago
 
Lou Answers
First let me start by saying congratulations, you are so normal it isn't funny. And here are the reasons why they feel differently. You are actually having two different nerve systems stimulated. With oral stimulation your husband's actions are concentrating sensation along the pudendal nerve system. That highly sensitive nerve system powers the entire vulvar area, made up of the labia minora and majora (inner and outer lips) the clitoris, urethra and entry into the vagina.

During rear entry (AKA doggy-style) intercourse, the head of your husband's penis is stroking the front vaginal wall. Any position that has strong front wall stimulation would do the same thing. The nerve systems in this area are the pelvic and hypogastric. The belly button side of the vaginal wall is where one concentrates motion to stimulate the G-spot, but please note the G-spot is not in the vaginal wall it is above it and as such often requires much firmer pressure and stimulation. Also it has been noted that women who have delivered vaginally have a better chance of experiencing strong G-spot stimulation, as their vaginal barrel is more flexible from having delivered. Note I did not say looser. The PC muscle at the entry into the vagina is the determining factor for tightness and can be toned using Kegel exercises.

In comparing the orgasmic sensations of a clitoral vs. a G-spot/front vaginal wall orgasm, women have said the clitoral feels more like a pulling up and in, while stimulation of the G-spot/front vaginal wall feels like a broader more all over pushing down and out sensation. I hope this answers your question. For a more in depth discussion, I cover this topic extensively in The BIG O .

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