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Lou Paget's 7 Day Intimacy Booster Plan
  
 
The Other Half - NBC National Show to air 2.8.02
 
     
In just one week create in your own relationship what these couples discovered in less than 7 days. Lou created a 7 Day Intimacy Booster Plan for her three guest expert appearances on NBC's The Other Half. In essence it is a One-Step-A-Day for 7 days, very PG for the daytime TV presentation, that would have couples discover, rediscover and create more lovemaking in their marriages. These couples approached the 7 days with a clear and open intention to enhance their relationships. One couple has two young children and the husband always complained about wanting more. Of another pair, the woman wanted more sex and for the third couple, their timetables wreaked havoc upon their newlywed sex life.

Day 1: Couples got the 7-Day Plan and a custom-designed kit.
Day 5: In-studio feedback segment with couples.
Day 7: In-studio review and results

Three couples, including one of the show's hosts, Danny Bonaducci and his wife Gretchen, agreed to be intimate every day for a week following the 7-Day Intimacy Booster Plan I gave them. Yesterday was the wrap shooting of the week and here are some highlighted reactions. Across the board they said yes it was fun, yet there were two powerful things they discovered about one another.

        • They all felt they fell in love with one another all over again. " The first night when
          we were talking. I looked in her eyes and saw why I had fallen in love with her in the
          first place." "It became so clear this wasn't about sex it was about loving and intimacy
          and if you have those, a man is going have all the sex he wants."
       • They realized that when they had as much sex available as they could possibly want,
          they didn't want quantity they wanted quality. And for all three partners who complained
          of not having enough - as soon as there was all the sex they could want plus all the
          attention, they chose to make love rather than just have sex, less often than they expected.


They realized that when they had as much sex available as they could possibly want, they didn't want quantity they wanted quality. And for all three partners who complained of not having enough - as soon as there was all the sex they could want plus all the attention, they chose to make love rather than just have sex, less often than they expected.

So here it is for you. This is as I sent it to NBC.
 

Day 1: Share With Your Partner The Specific Area(s) Of Their Body That Turns You On. E.g. side of waist, flare of hip, jaw line, chest. Invariably it isn't what you think and chances are you don't know.
Take-Away Message: Your brain is your most powerful sexual organ, and your skin is your largest sexual organ. Play to your strengths.

Day 2: Turn The TV Off.
Spend time without it on, listen to music, read, and be touching.
Take-Away Message: Your attention is one of the most seductive things you can give someone and TV is the biggest robber of couple's attention to one another in the evening. There was massage oil in the kit should the mood strike.

Day 3: Give One Another Kissing Lessons All Over Your Body.
After all babies first explore their world with their mouths so we as grownups can do the same. To help a partner know how much suction or pressure you prefer to any area, show them on their finger or tongue so you get your preferred sensation.
Take-Away Message: Kissing is the #1 thing that gets a woman's motor running and a man who kisses well should be cloned. A Mid-Nite Fire lubricant was in their kit.

Day 4: Share With Your Partner A List Of The Top Three Areas Of Your Body You Want Attended To And How You Want Them Paid Attention To.
- Know that we touch the way we like to be touched. As a function of testosterone, men's skin is thicker and denser than women's and men often touch more firmly and more directly to action spots. And women often touch more lightly. Put your hand over or around your partner's and squeeze to show them your preference.
Take-Away Message: We often are having psychic sex thinking our partner should know how we like to be touched.

Day 5: Share Fantasies & Fun.
For those comfortable with role playing AKA fantasy play, this expands your options in a committed relationship. Most people are scared to share their fantasies because they fear their partner will feel disrespected. Increase the fun factor with novelties. For men, have them know NOTHING will ever replace the feel of a man's body and then let them know in these situations they are in charge of the remote control.
Take-Away Message: Most people men in particular do not expand and share their fantasies as they do not want to insult or have their partner feel disrespected YET these are likely some of their greatest turn-ons. Kit contained the Pulsa-bath and the tension reducing Finger-Vibe personal massager in kit.

Day 6: Get A Book Of Ideas And Review And Highlight Your Preferences,
pink highlighter for one and a blue for the other - you choose. Throw the book on the bed and whatever page it falls open at, you do.
Take-Away Message: In a monogamous relationship, where do you go to get new ideas if your repertoire is based on personal experiences? Plus the adult industry is a sad source of information. Book with highlighters is in the kit.

Day 7: Buy One Another's Favorite Foods And Serve Where You Wouldn't Normally.
Take-Away Message: Your sexual appetite isn't the only one you need to feed.

  

Warmly,

 

 
       
       
 

Question of the month
  
      February, 2002  
 
    
  
 
  Question:
  HI! I am searching high and low for a product that can protect the entire vulva area from coming in contact with the semen, because it causes me terrible irritation that I can't bear, PLEASE HELP me out with any suggestion. Also is it possible to order a custom-made toy for the above issue?
PLEASE REPLY!
THANKS in advance
M.


  Lou Answers:
 


The best barrier protection suggestion we know of given your issue is the REALITY FEMALE CONDOM. And I am not aware of a toy or novelty that would provide similar protection.

The REALITY is a polyurethane condom designed for women. It is inserted into the vagina and held in place internally with a small removable ring at the upper end of the vagina, much as a diaphragm would be held in place. It extends outside the woman's body with a larger external ring. Depending on the woman's genitals it will cover part of the inner and outer labia. During intercourse this would provide the best barrier protection from contact with semen for the largest possible genital area for you both internally and externally. And obviously only those parts of your genitals that are covered by the condom would keep the semen from coming in contact with your skin. We carry it here if you are not able to find it in your local drug store. A large drugstore chain should carry the product.

Originally the REALITY condom was developed so that women could be in control of the protection without having to rely on their partner to provide same. And as it is a polyurethane product, an oil lubricant can be used without concern for eroding the condom as would happen with a latex condom. This is from a different manufacturer than the male polyurethane condom Avanti and is stronger. Also by virtue of its larger, stronger design and the ability to use oil- based lubricants some creative anal sex aficionados prefer this condom to their weaker latex cousins. They merely take out the removable inserted ring at the end of the condom and use as they would a latex condom but with much less risk of the condom breaking.

However please consider the following:
 • Is there a possibility you could be allergic to your partner's semen?
 • You do not mention if this has happened with other partners.
 • Are you possibly allergic to nonoxynol-9 which is the spermicidal put on condoms, and in foams and    diaphragm creams? Read the back of any package and it will tell you if that product is there. It is    extremely irritating for many women and men.
 • Or are you having a problem with an abundance of partner's pubic hair or an allergic reaction to that and    or lack thereof, should there be stubble from shaving?

Let us know if this works.

Warmly,
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