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Am I Bisexual?

Dear Lou:

I’m a 35 year old divorced woman who has started being attracted to women. I’ve never been with a woman, kissed or anything but all of a sudden I am looking at women at the gym differently. Does this mean I am bisexual? Are there online sites I can visit as this has me very confused.

Suspect I’m from Sapphos

Dear Suspect:

Actually your sexual attention shift/expansion is not uncommon. According to American Institute of Bisexuality the definition of bisexuality is that it is determined by how YOU identify. It is not about an action, being sexual with both women or men, or a thought/fantasy-dreaming of being with a woman, or someone else saying you are. IF you identify as being attracted to women and men it is your choice to identify as you choose. You might be straight who is attracted to women too, gender neutral attracted to who you are with at that moment, Gender fluid in easily finding any partner attractive regardless of how they identify. Fortunately we have come a long way from the binary two sex identification so it is really up to you and what feels right for you.

Now, how do you find out if you are truly attracted to women, I’d suggest getting a lesbian wing-woman and have her introduce you to their fav meeting grounds and sites. Lurk on some facebook pages and sites to see how it makes you feel. You are a beginner and as such you need to make sure you feel safe and secure as you explore this. And as a beginner you are not expected to know, your job is to learn about yourself. So that means don’t drink or dope yourself as you want to have all your faculties at peak reception mode.

Have fun.

Best, Lou

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