Question:
Male Multiple Orgasms….I
keep hearing about men who have these or do they? What is
the real scoop here?
-Puzzled in Penticton
Dear Puzzled;
Yes they do happen and before I delve
into how they happen I will give the definition of a male
multiple orgasm as it will give you the basis for understanding
as it is very different from the definition of female multiple
orgasm mainly because of the physiological differences between
how each sex experiences orgasms.
Male multiple orgasm occurs when
a man experiences more than one orgasm with the SAME erection.
In other words after an orgasm he does not lose his erection,
go through what is referred to technically as the refractory
phase, he remains erect AND he has not ejaculated. In comparison
female multiple orgasm is defined more than one orgasm in
the same lovemaking session. So why do women get off with
a broader scope of definition so to speak, the answer is
physiological. Blood and oxygen power orgasms, and for women
the increased blood in the pelvis as a result of the sexual
stimulation, the vasocongestion of the sexual organs, does
not flow out of their sexual organs at the moment of orgasm
in the way it does for most men who ejaculate.
So why would on a man want to become
multi-orgasmic? Sexual parlour tricks aside for men who
experience them they are longer-lasting which enables a
man to prolong lovemaking and when he does allow an ejaculatory
orgasm as is described as being much more intense. As David
shared, “In two months I went from skeptical to being
multipli-orgasmic and the self-confidence it gave me has
been incredible.”.
Any practice of withholding of ejaculation,
delaying orgasm, conserving chi, AKA life force all get
lumped into this same area. What distinguishes them is the
philosophy behind them. For Tantric sex the delaying is
about the journey of sharing physically and spiritually
while blending the energy of partners. In Taoist philosophy
practioner Mantak Chia refers to this practice as sexual
Kung Fu and is for people who are looking to deepen the
experiences of their own sexuality.
Most people assume that a man’s
orgasm and ejaculation are one in the same event occurring
at the moment of peak sexual excitement. Now I would never
dare to say that one’s enjoyment with the two events
experienced as one is less than a divine experience, however
for men who experiences multiple orgasms they are aware
of the separation of these two events. For most men the
ejaculation process is about two seconds and this allows
a man to extend that process and the sensations involved.
Fear not, I list resources to learn how at the end of this
answer. My personal caveat on any sexual experience is to
explore it for you and your partner’s enjoyment not
for the performance of it
The key to a man becoming multi-orgasmic
is a well-toned Pubococcygeus aka PC muscle and an understanding
of his ejaculation process including the timing. Translation,
(I borrow this description from Dr. Barbara Keesling who
is an expert on male multiple orgasms), he is aware that
there are two parts to the ejaculation process, emission
(the gun gets loaded) and expulsion (the gun gets fired)
and is able to control them with a well-toned PC muscle
For most men, the contraction of the PC muscle during the
expulsion phase is an involuntary process. And this is where
the PC muscle comes into the equation, once you take control
of your PC muscle you can voluntarily delay or prevent ejaculation
and a man will still experience the full sensation of orgasm
complete with rapid heart rate, muscle contractions, and
the intense sensation of release. Some men refer to this
as dry orgasms.
So where is your PC muscle? The Pubococcygeus
muscle runs from the front to the back of the pelvic girdle
in both sexes and for most people they are aware of it as
the muscle you contract to stop the flow of urine. Most
men are aware of it when they contract it and an erect penis
‘jumps’. This is the same muscle women exercise
with Kegel exercises post pregnancy. And your dog has one
too; its PC is doing the work when they wag their tail.
Studies that show a direct correlation between orgasmic
sensation and a well-toned PC muscle for both sexes.
For men who wish to explore there
are two terrific books available, Mantak Chia’s The
Multi-Orgasmic Male and Dr. Barbara Keesling’s, How
To Make Love All Night. Both of these books have clear step-by-step
programs with Chia using line drawn illustrations.
For many committed couples
this is a way they can expand their horizons and take their
intimacy to the next level as it is like being a sexual
beginner all over again and having a whole new world to
explore.
Warmly,

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