I have a very personal problem and I can't talk to anyone in my life. I am still a virgin a month after my wedding. I am coming to you because I read your books before my wedding so I would be prepared because I didn't know what to expect, I was told it would hurt and tear and I would bleed all over the first time. I know that I am very sensitive and whenever my husband stimulates me I get very sore, I think from how you described the woman's anatomy it is the urethra that gets sore. I am fine with oral sex but when he uses his hands it hurts me and even his fingers inside hurt me. I want to be a wife to my husband and don't know how to deal with this.

Please help!!