Hey Lou, I am a 30 yr old female who has been dating someone for a year and I feel pathetically vulnerable sometimes in bed at night when he doesn't want to have sex because he's too tired or it is too late. I don't want to give up my pride again and make the first move in order to get the sex I so crave. I don't feel that it's my duty to do so as a female. However during the day if he wants it, I usually give it to him without satisfying myself because he's always rushing me. Isn't that pathetic? I'm very attractive and feel as if my life is passing me by and this should be the best sex time in my life ever. I tried by not giving him sex at all and that just makes him not want to have it at all. Am I waisting my life away or what?