http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/ en Copyright 2007 Fri, 08 Jun 2007 13:20:54 -0800 http://www.sixapart.com/movabletype/ http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss > Clearly, the husband would not be comfortable, initially, meeting jointly with the therapist, but ultimately that would be the goal. If you are able to ascertain their location, I can help you locate a referral."" I echo her recommendation and then you can start your own healing process for yourself and your son. Believe me when I say he isn't "doing this" to you I am sure he is as confused and conflicted as you are if not more so. He seems to searching for what sexually interests him. No one should remain in your current emotional state, and as hard as dealing with this is at this point you know you do not want to have this situation remain staus quo. So congratulations on addressing it and if you would like a referral please let my office know at office@loupaget.com. And you can check out www.aasect.org as a start. Best, Lou]]> http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2007/06/husbands_secret_life.html http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2007/06/husbands_secret_life.html Fri, 08 Jun 2007 13:20:54 -0800 Hi Mauli: I am not sure if you are talking about someone who is pregnant or wanting to be pregnant. I will answer as if a woman is already pregnant. Orgasm pre-pregnancy or wanting to become pregnant is considered to be beneficial to move the semen into the uterus enroute to the Fallopian tube where fertilization takes place. When I wrote Hot Mamas I consulted medical experts with obstectrial practices for the often asked question "Will an orgasm cause a miscarriage or initate premature labor?" If a woman is pregnant and has had her health professional tell her she has a normal healthy pregnancy with no complications then the amswer is NO. This is how Dr. Jules Black described to me an orgasm could initate labor. Imagine an apple on a tree. When it is growing and not ripe nothing will cause it to drop from the tree. However once it is ripe and READY to fall then wind or rain can make it fall. Until the stage of pregnancy when the woman's body is ready for delivery of the baby then an orgasm usually after her due date may start labor. Also know that the contractions of an orgasm are mainly vaginal/genital in focus with some uterine contractions and feel very different from delivery contractions. Best, Lou http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2007/06/masturbation_pregnancy_questio.html http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2007/06/masturbation_pregnancy_questio.html Lou Live Pregnancy Fri, 08 Jun 2007 13:09:33 -0800 http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2007/01/send_me_your_questions.html http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2007/01/send_me_your_questions.html Lou Live Wed, 03 Jan 2007 09:05:54 -0800 Hi Lou, I have been with my partner for 8 years. Intimacy was well balanced and succulent the first few years. In the past five plus years, the intimacy has diminished to pretty much nothing. I have asked about what is going on for her, she says she just does not feel horny that it is likely pre-menopause symptoms (age 46) that she has financial and work stress, all along with tennis elbow. She has never indicated verbally or behaviorally that anything else is going on. She did have an affair in the first year of our relationship. She is 10 years older than me and I sometimes wonder if perhaps she views herself as being in the mother figure. I asked her this, and she denied this was a fact. I have asked her to see a Doctor, and she did go. The doctor said that there are no physical reasons for her lack of feelings. I have asked several times if we could see a therapist together and she adamantly opposes this suggestion. I have definitely heard of the lesbian bed death thing where 2 women spend so much time together, the whole intimacy thing falls by the way side. Even if this were true, when we are apart for longer periods of time, no romance occurs.I keep waiting giving her space waiting and waiting for her to take some initiative to work on herself. I.m not particularly willing to part from her for this reason alone, however, I.m 36 and I feel more than alive and romantic. Some days it eats me up to the core. But, I also don.t want to wait another 5 years, wake up one day, and realize that everything is still the same. I believe intimacy is important without it, were just roommates. Do I stay or do I go? Do I push or do I give her space? What could the problem be? What are some solutions? Wilting Further Every Day ]]> http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2006/07/qom_for_july_2006.html http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2006/07/qom_for_july_2006.html Question of the Month Romance Sat, 01 Jul 2006 21:04:11 -0800 Question: Dear Lou; My girlfriend has a lot of guy friends calling our house & she calls her ex from her cell & he calls her. We are having problems & she doesn't get horny anymore. Is it over or what? Confused ]]> http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2006/06/qom_july_2006.html http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2006/06/qom_july_2006.html Question of the Month Fri, 02 Jun 2006 23:09:18 -0800 Question: 1. When my boyfriend and I are having sex his penis slips out sometimes. It happens during all positions, whether from behind, me on top, or him on top. I am so embarrassed! Is this common? What can I do to keep it from happening? Please help! ]]> http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2006/05/qom_for_may_2006.html http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2006/05/qom_for_may_2006.html Question of the Month Wed, 31 May 2006 23:25:09 -0800 Question: Hello Lou, I have thoroughly enjoyed reading your books. I am a 43 year old man that loves his wife dearly. The problem is she never wants to have sex. It's been 6 weeks since we have had sex. I am trying to be patient; however, I don't know what to do. http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2006/04/qom_for_april_2006.html http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2006/04/qom_for_april_2006.html Question of the Month Sat, 01 Apr 2006 23:30:46 -0800 Question: Ms. Paget, For me sex is very mechanical. It is more work than pleasure. It's very much for my husband, who is always ready, willing and able. I don't even try anything to make it more interesting for him, because he doesn't need the extra encouragement. I never have orgasms during regular intercourse and frankly am not sure I enjoy them anyway. Plus intercourse is typically painful (easy fissures and general discomfort). I'm uptight about the mess and I just can't get into it. How can I feel passionate about this tedious task? ]]> http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2006/03/qom_for_march_2006.html http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2006/03/qom_for_march_2006.html Question of the Month Wed, 01 Mar 2006 23:36:38 -0800 Dear Lou; I adore sex and have stayed in relationships way longer than I should have because of the regular sex; sometimes it was so-so and other times it knocked my lights out it was so great. The relationships finally end when the love ends. Once that's gone I'm gone. I don't sleep around and only have sex with one person at a time when I am in monogamous relationship. I can live without sex but don't like to as I crave it, but when I am with someone I want it all the time, sometimes 2-3 times a day. I do masturbate especially when I am single, but not every day. I have read about sexual addiction and one of my girlfriends said I must be a sexual addict because I need and want it so much. Now I'm worried. Am I? Am I a borderline addict or what? I am 35 year old woman. Sexual in Seattle ]]> http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2006/02/qom_for_feb_2006.html http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2006/02/qom_for_feb_2006.html Question of the Month Wed, 01 Feb 2006 23:43:21 -0800 Hey Lou, I am a 30 yr old female who has been dating someone for a year and I feel pathetically vulnerable sometimes in bed at night when he doesn't want to have sex because he's too tired or it is too late. I don't want to give up my pride again and make the first move in order to get the sex I so crave. I don't feel that it's my duty to do so as a female. However during the day if he wants it, I usually give it to him without satisfying myself because he's always rushing me. Isn't that pathetic? I'm very attractive and feel as if my life is passing me by and this should be the best sex time in my life ever. I tried by not giving him sex at all and that just makes him not want to have it at all. Am I waisting my life away or what? ]]> http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2006/01/qom_for_jan_2006.html http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2006/01/qom_for_jan_2006.html Question of the Month Romance Sun, 01 Jan 2006 23:50:13 -0800 Question: Hello Lou how are you?? Well I really hope you can help me with this. Me & my boyfriend (who I love very much) have been together for 3 years now & over the last 2 weeks he hasn't wanted to have sex with me at all. I'm starting to think its me.]]> http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2005/12/qom_for_dec_2005.html http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2005/12/qom_for_dec_2005.html Question of the Month Sat, 31 Dec 2005 00:08:08 -0800 Question: My wife and I experiment sexually and want to expand a fantasy where I watch her with another man. We thought of getting a man though a website search, someone who would be willing to do everything except go all the way and practice safe sex. We are very happily married and this would satisfy two of our biggest fantasies. Me seeing her with another man and for both of us being watched by him as we want to have him watch as I.ll step in to finish as we decided he wouldn.t have actual intercourse with her. My wife will take care of him for his services with oral or manual sex. She is totally into it but she is actually worried I might have some misgivings about it later. So before we actually engage in this activity I thought I'd ask if there were any pitfalls we might encounter. SS in SF ]]> http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2005/11/qom_for_nov_2005.html http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2005/11/qom_for_nov_2005.html Fantasy Question of the Month Wed, 30 Nov 2005 00:12:29 -0800 Question: I am a woman who is very large vaginally. My husband is not small, but certainly not as large as I need and like. He enjoys and gets very excited pleasuring me with very large "toys" but I would like him to feel more when he is inside me himself. Is there some product that I could insert vaginally that would make me smaller and give him more feeling? During this, I would be happy with just the pressure, not needing to feel the actual rubbing. I just like him on top of me. Any suggestions? Jane Doe ]]> http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2005/09/qom_for_sept_2005.html http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2005/09/qom_for_sept_2005.html Question of the Month Toys and Props Thu, 01 Sep 2005 10:56:15 -0800 Question: According to my Drs. I have Peyronie's Disease. It started in about Dec. of 04. I think it has run it course and I want surgery and mostly likely some of type of an implant to restore the shape and size of my penis. What advice do you have and what type of Dr. is best (urologist, plastic surgeon, other) for this type of procedure? Thanks, Marcus ]]> http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2005/07/qom_for_july_2005.html http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2005/07/qom_for_july_2005.html Question of the Month Fri, 01 Jul 2005 11:03:44 -0800 Question: In one of your books you talk about the effects of what a man eats and how it can change the taste of his semen. Can you please tell me what are the best things for a woman to eat to ensure that during cunninglingus she can afford her partner the best possible taste. ]]> http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2005/06/qom_for_june_2005.html http://www.loupaget.com/weblog/2005/06/qom_for_june_2005.html Oral Techniques Question of the Month Wed, 01 Jun 2005 11:11:52 -0800